hey! well im kinda in the same boat you are. i was a huge tomboy all through junior high and then to impress people and guys in particular i started dressing more girly and what not but i still have this thing for both males and females. it all started this last fall when i began hanging out with the girl that is now my best friend. we spend a lot of time together becuz we are in the same sort of extra curricular activities and stuff and we would take charter busses to these places where we were performing and stuff and id sit with her and fall asleep laying on her and usually i wouldnt do that but for some reason i really wanted to. then i started noticing all these things about her like how beautiful her eyes were or how amazing she looks or how i cant wait until i leave her house so she will hug me and give me a kiss on the cheek. it sorta sucks becuz i dont think she's bi or anything but she gives me these signals that confuse me like she tells me she loves me and we cuddle when we watch movies and she kisses me on the cheek all the time. im too nervous to tell her that i feel these things for her but i dunno im scared that one of these days the attraction is gonna get to much and im just gonna kiss her randomly or something and she's gonna freak. i havnt come out as bi or anything yet. plus i have a boyfriend and so yeah i dont think that would go over well. well write back so i at least have someone to talk to about all this stuff becuz i havnt told anyone.

I knew i was into girls from Junior high, but never had guts to do anything about it. Ignored my feelings and since I liked guys too, I just dated men. Then when I was 25, the girlfriend of a friend asked if she could kiss me. I was drunk, and thought, "why not!" So I kissed her...woa...what a kiss!! It felt so right, so natural. After that, I went out and put in a personal ad to meet girls. That's how I met my first girlfriend. Since then I've dated both men and women..I really prefer women for serious relationships, but like having sex with both.